Making that first step to access support and be willing to share your thoughts, feelings and ideas with another person is a brave and responsible act. It's also a positive move towards helping you ease some of the wobbles, struggles and conflicts you may be having, and demonstrates a capacity to think which is essential in making your life more in line with your needs and intentions.
I will seek to build a meaningful relationship with you so that together, with curiosity, we can understand areas of your life, cope with change, and overcome your obstacles. Often, these transitions are linked both to loss and separation, of having to let go of something in order to make space for something new. This can be challenging and I am committed to supporting you through this process of change.
I have particular experience of working with the following:
Affairs and betrayals
Generalised anxiety disorder
Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
Passive aggressive behaviour
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
Separation and divorce
Individual psychodynamic therapy, a type of talking of therapy with roots in psychoanalysis, aims at producing a positive effect in a person’s relationship to themselves, their history, and their relationships through the process of making unconscious aspects of the personality (that we are less aware of but that have an effect on behaviour, thought and emotion) more available to consciousness.
I work towards building a carefully set-up and secure therapeutic relationship which pays close attention to the identification of different emotional states of mind. In order to facilitate this regular, frequent, clinical sessions are needed.
Couples can sometimes find it hard to have a sense of their relationship as a whole entity. You may see things from your own point of view, possibly at times from your partner’s point of view and it can be a struggle to view the relationship and see what you are creating together.
I offer Couple Psychotherapy, a more in-depth process of getting to know your relationship better, and work towards maintaining a non-blaming and non-judgemental position. In therapy, we focus on the relationship itself and explore the sort of relationship you have co-created, working together on understanding why it is not quite how you would both like it to be.
Working with Couples Following a Diagnosis
A diagnosis can put strain on the couple relationship and develop a carer-patient dynamic. Changes in roles, identity and intimacy can lead to a disconnection where the carer-partner can become increasingly frustrated with the patient-partner and experience stress and burnout, while the patient-partner can feel shame and reduced levels of personal control and gradually withdraw, leaving both partners feeling stuck and unhappy.
I aim to provide support and containment for couples in coming to terms with the diagnosis, making optimal adjustment, maximising the potential for engagement and activity and working on their sense of couple identity.
Whether due to illness, trauma or stress, I support couples in finding strategies for increasing understanding, communication and closeness. Strengthening a couple’s resilience and improving their capacity to use their relationship as a critical resource during difficult times is central to my work.
I also offer consultations for the following services:
Life and Executive Coaching:
Focused intense work on enabling change through a detailed understanding of potential and pitfalls.
Comprehensive review and assessment of head injury, neurological conditions and disorders with strategies for neurorehabilitation and support.
I provide professional and clinical supervision and have extensive experience in supporting trainees and professionals in the field of psychological practice, couple counselling and psychotherapy.
My experience includes supervising trainees in the Couple Therapy for Depression model at Tavistock Relationships and psychologists at various levels (Highly Specialist, Specialist and Trainee). I aim to offer a supportive, creative and collaborative approach tailored to the practitioner's stage of development.
Supervision can be face-to-face or via Skype.
The initial consultation is an hour long and serves as an introduction in working together and provides an opportunity for us to explore your reasons for seeking therapy. I offer the space for you to be able to talk about a difficulty you may have and the meaning this has in your current life with links to your past and in the context of your relationships.
Subsequent sessions are fifty minutes long and are offered on a weekly basis. I offer both open-ended, long-term work and brief, short-term interventions. This would be something we would discuss at initial consultation stage.
Initial Consultation and Session Fees:
Individual: from £70 per session
Couple: from £90 per session
Fees are negotiable and are discussed during the initial consultation
Following a first contact by email or phone, we can agree a time to meet for an initial consultation. By the end of the initial consultation, if we agree that there is a way for us to work together, we can then arrange regular weekly sessions.
If you would like to ask me any questions about my way of working or whether there is a way for us to work together, please feel free to contact me by entering your details in this form. I will try to reply within 24 hours of receiving your message.
Alternatively, you can ring me:
Tel: 07930 320 310
How to get there
16 Brune Street
By tube or train
5 mins walk - Liverpool Street Station/Aldgate East Station
8 mins walk - Shoreditch High Street/Aldgate Station
Bus routes serving the area include 15, 25, 67, 115, 135, 205, 254
Metered parking available on adjacent road, Bell Lane
8 mins walk - NCP car park on Whitechapel High Street
I am a Couple Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist, a Chartered Clinical Psychologist and Associate Fellow with the British Psychological Society (BPS), as well as an Individual Psychodynamic Psychotherapist. I have some 15 years experience of working in the NHS.
Training & Qualifications
I completed my Doctorate in Clinical Psychology at University College London (UCL). I also hold a Postgraduate Diploma in Individual and Couple Psychodynamic Psychotherapy from Tavistock Relationships. There, I furthered my specialist couple training by completing the Masters programme in Couple Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy.
After qualifying as a clinical psychologist, I specialised in neuropsychology and cognitive disorders at the National Hospital for Neurology and Neurosurgery, Queen Square. Over several years at Queen Square, I worked on a number of research studies and was the lead psychologist for neuropsychology workgroups for patients and carers addressing cognitive and emotional problems, with a focus on adjustment for a range of conditions, including stroke and multiple sclerosis. I have also been lead psychologist on the Acute Brain Injury Unit, working with individuals, couples and families following acquired head injury. More recently, I worked as a principal clinical psychologist on a dementia research trial in the Neuroepidemiology and Ageing Research Unit, Imperial College London.
Individual and Couple Psychotherapy
For several years, I worked at the highly reputable Tavistock Relationships as a faculty member of staff within a team of couple experts in psychoanalytic psychotherapy. I have worked on the following programmes at Tavistock Relationships:
• National Training Lead and Supervisor for the NICE approved Couple Therapy for Depression programme for NHS practitioners within IAPT Services (Improving Access to Psychological Therapies). Couple Therapy for Depression is a model of working with couples where at least one partner is diagnosed with depression.
• Clinician, Supervisor and Lecturer for the ‘Living Together with Dementia’ programme. This is a specialist couple intervention aimed at improving the life experience of couples where one partner has a dementia by fostering more satisfying interpersonal engagement in such couples and strengthening their resilience in managing the illness together.
• Project Lead on a new pre-retirement programme, ‘Couple 50+ MOT' where I set up a brief intervention service for couples aged 50+ as they approach the transition to retirement to enable them to manage the process of change.
Quoted on relationships in new book on retirement: "Not Fade Away: How to thrive in retirement" (2018) by Celia Dodd (Bloomsbury).
Quoted on couples approaching retirement in The Daily Mail, 16 September 2018: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-6173973/CELIA-DODD-says-fall-love-just-two-you.html
Publications & Presentations
Khan S. S. (2016) Working with couples and the family after SAH. ‘Life after a SAH’ Conference. Brain and Spine Foundation, Queen Square, November 2016. http://www.brainandspine.org.uk/life-after-subarachnoid-haemorrhage-conference
Chan E, Khan S. S. Oliver R, Gill S.K, Werring D.J, Cipolotti L. (2014) Underestimation of cognitive impairments by the Montreal Cognitive Assessment (MoCA) in an acute stroke unit population. Journal of the Neurological Sciences, 343, 176-179.
Khan S. S. (2014) The Role Of The Neuropsychologist in Acute Neurorehabilitation. Neurology Short Course, Queen Square, May 2014.
Cipolotti L., Husain M., Crinion J., Bird C.M., Khan S.S., et al. (2008). The role of the thalamus in amnesia: a tractography, high-resolution MRI and neuropsychological study. Neuropsychologia, 46, 2745-58.
Smithson H.E., Khan S.S., Sharpe L.T. & Stockman A. (2006). Transitions between colour categories mapped with a reverse Stroop task. Visual Neuroscience, 23, 453-460.
Khan S. S, Spoudeas H. A, Martin N. A, Davies K, Greenwood, R. J, Cipolotti, L (2006) Intellectual and Functional Outcomes in Adult Survivors of Childhood Posterior Fossa Tumours. 12th International Symposium on Pediatric Neuro-Oncology, Japan, June 2006.